Partido State
University
COLLEGE
OF EDUCATION
Goa, Camarines
Sur
2ND Semester
A/Y 2013-2014
INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS
“Treasure
your relationships, not your possessions.”
What is an Interpersonal Relationship?
An
interpersonal relationship is a relationship that is between you and one or
more people. These relationships can be with friends, family members,
significant others, teachers, co-workers or bosses. While each type of
interpersonal relationship has its own set of benefits and difficulties, there
are many universal ways to build and maintain any type of interpersonal
relationship.
Improving/Building Interpersonal Skills
1.
Don’t complain about, criticize or ridicule people. You won’t
find an easier way to build up resentment toward yourself than by complaining
and criticizing. Don’t tell people that they are doing something wrong and that
your way of doing it is better. They won’t respond well to that sort of criticism.
Instead, ask them a few investigative questions to see if you can figure out
WHY they are doing what they do. You may find out they have a good reason for
going with their method. If not, you can always let them know that, if they get
stuck, you have another solution that may do the trick.
2.
Learn to appreciate others. We all want to know that people appreciate the
work we’re doing. Have you ever noticed that when someone praises you for a job
well done, you continue to meet that high standard? Well, the same goes for the
people around you. If you treat everyone with genuine appreciation, they will
keep giving you good things to appreciate! But remember to be sincere; people
can pick up quickly if you don’t mean what you say.
3.
Be genuinely interested in others. It’s something that a lot of
people won’t like to admit, but it’s true. People like to talk about
themselves. By being genuinely interested and asking people questions about
their interests, you’ll quickly gain their friendship.
4.
SMILE! Smiles are contagious. People will naturally gravitate
toward you because of your sunny disposition. Not only will smiling make people
around you feel better, you’ll start feeling better, too.
5.
Be a good listener. Try
to listen more than you speak and encourage others to tell you about
themselves. You’ll quickly develop good relationships.
6.
Make others feel important. Telling those around you that they’re
important to you is a great way to build good relationships. Simply saying
thank you or letting someone know that they are appreciated can go a long way
in all of your relationships. But again, remember to be sincere!
7.
Avoid arguing and understand that you may not be right all of the time. When
people argue, they don’t really listen to what the other person says while they
wait impatiently for a turn to talk. You’ll do much better if you stay calm and
actually listen to what others are saying. They may actually be right!
And if you still believe that you are right, telling them that they’re wrong
isn’t going to get you your way any faster. Instead, they’ll end up resenting
you and won’t listen to your ideas anyway. Consider how you would feel in the
situation and try to come up with a very tactful, non-threatening approach.
8.
If you are wrong, admit it. So suppose in the above situation, you
discover that you are wrong. Some people get defensive and just won’t ever
admit that they were wrong. If that’s ever happened to you, you understand how
annoying that can be. Don’t be that person! You will get much more respect if
you come out and say that you were wrong or admit that someone else’s solution
was better. No one will fault you for being wrong; we all make mistakes! But
people will turn on you if you appear so self-absorbed that you don’t even
realize that you’ve made a mistake.
8.
Save your anger. If
you appear angry, people will immediately get defensive and you won’t solve
anything. If you are angry with someone, take a few minutes to calm down and
think about what you need to say. If you go into a situation with a calm attitude
you are more likely to get to the bottom of the problem and come up with a
reasonable compromise.
9.
Suggest, Don’t tell. No
one ever likes to feel as though they’re being told what to do or how to
think. Suggesting ideas to people is much better than telling people what
to think. Suggestions make people feel open-minded about your ideas; Commands
make people feel like they have to defend themselves and their ideas to you.
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